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Sex has many tones of expression that allow for many deep and meaningful experiences. And growing into our potential calls for us to explore the different paths of expression as we also take sex into the deep.

We all have our preferences, which often function like a language. To express love sexually we might gravitate toward some combination of playful, sensual, and intimate forms of connection.

It’s important to know our preferred language of expression, while also understanding that our wife’s is likely different.

But as we grow we can deepen, enrich, and expand our sexual expressions of love with each other.

Love is expressed sexually along the paths of truth, goodness, and beauty – which translate into intimate knowing, creative and playful action, and erotic joy experienced.

And each path has different stages of development as we grow into sexual maturity.

Initially, sex tends to be fairly selfish as we focus merely on getting what we want from the encounter regardless of the path of expression.

In time, sex becomes more relational as we use our preferred modes to connect uniquely with each other.

And eventually sex becomes a truly spiritual experience as we bask in God’s presence and become conduits of his love even as we continue to enjoy ourselves personally and relationally.

The deeper we take sex the more robust our language of expression can become. We’re no longer limited to one or two paths of expression at a time and can now bring together our unique blends of intimacy, playfulness, and pleasure.

From one encounter to the next, or even within the same encounter, we have greater freedom to express love as we develop along each of the paths.

Many sexual frustrations relate to not understanding each other’s preferred styles of expression and not growing our sexual dance into its deepest connections.

Explore and engage the different paths of sexual growth.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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