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Sex is a monotone experience for many. There is not much variation from one encounter to the next. And often a similar tone is expected in each encounter.

When intimacy is seen as the primary purpose for sex (outside of baby making), romantic and affectionate expressions is the usual expected tone.

And while these can be deeply satisfying expressions, sex can also take on many other rich tones.

For example, sex can be playful as we engage in a variety of sounds, movements, and even role-play scenarios.

Sex can also take on a sensual tone as we focus on the joys of erotic pleasures.

And even in intimacy, sex can take on deeper tones than our usual romantic expressions.

For instance, in moments of deep sorrow sex has the power to connect and soothe our souls that would not be described as romantic or playful, yet deeply healing.

When sex is limited to a singular tone we limit the fullness of God’s gift to us.

Sex is much more robust than many of us have considered.

It does not have to be limited to romantic, affectionate, or even playful moods.

Sex has the power to comfort and nourish, heal and inspire, celebrate and honor, expand and deepen, teach and instruct across many different moods and seasons of life.

Our life remains impoverished when sex is limited to just one or two tones.

Discover all that God has for us by cultivating the many tones of sex.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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