Sex takes on many different tones and meanings. And many times it’s simply a pleasurable, fun, and intimate experience. But sex can also be a ritual that deepens the moment and meaning in our life.
Rituals are intentional practices that mark experiences and hold the depth and meaning of our story in a symbolic and condensed form.
For instance, perhaps we play a certain song to remind us of the early days of our marriage or to grieve the loss of a loved one. The song touches our soul and allows us to honor the various movements of our story.
And it doesn’t have to win any professional awards to provide this sacred space.
Sex can function in a similar way.
To be sure, it can be a ritual of intimacy – reminding us that our deep essence is seen, known, and accepted.
It can also be a ritual of goodness – regularly offering love and healing, blessing and affirmation to each other.
Likewise, sex offers us a ritual of beauty – celebrating life itself and the pleasure of being fearfully and wonderfully made.
Most of our sexual expressions are probably more habitual than ritual.
However pleasurable and fun on the surface, it seems we rarely allow sex to hold this ritual space – marking significance and allowing our souls to reorient back to deep truths and meaning.
While there’s always more to sex than what meets the eye, this doesn’t mean we have to burden every encounter as an intentional ritual.
At the same time, it’s good to have regular rhythms of sex as ritual – holding space to remind us of the true, the good, and the beautiful of our story.
In the end, rituals keep us from getting distracted by the shallows of life and allow us to stay connected to the more God has for us.
Let sex be a ritual to expand your soul and open to all that God has for you.