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We’re often more familiar with sexual shame, brokenness, and struggle than with sexual peace. And while we know that Jesus is our peace and makes us whole, sexual peace still seems like a foreign concept.

Peace is generally thought of as the absence of conflict.

And while it includes this, peace also conveys restoring to whole what has been broken – to make complete or to heal.

For instance, we experience peace at work when we’re able to earn a living doing work that matters – bringing together our heart’s desires with the practical realities of daily living.

And peace in relationships is experienced when our desire for both individuality and togetherness is harmonized.

However, peace is not generally a term we use to describe our sexual selves. In fact, for many, our sexuality is anything but peaceful.

Desire comes and goes with a mind of its own and fantasies leave us confused with their intense power to captivate.

Shame marks us with many doubts and insecurities. And it seems the best we can do is to play it safe as we try not to mess things up any more.

Who we are as sexual beings often seems mismatched with the rest of our life.

We either try to kill this part of us or attempt to keep it locked away in its own separate compartment.

This does not reflect the peace of Christ available.

Jesus is the Prince of Peace and his peace is for every aspect of our lives, including our sexuality.

Even here he wants to right all wrongs and heal what has been broken – to restore our sexual wholeness.

Sexual peace allows us to live at ease with our sexual selves – pondering its mysteries, enjoying its delights, and fully engaging its goodness.

Peace is available.

Let the peace of Christ bring complete wholeness even to your sexual self.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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