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We likely will never arrive if we don’t know where we’re going. It’s vision that gives us clarity of direction. We can see where we want to go even as we acknowledge we’ve not arrived yet. And perhaps there are few areas we need this more than in our sexual lives.

For many, our sexual vision remains pretty dim.

Beyond simply keeping it within the bounds of marriage, sex is often just considered a fun and pleasurable release. And we’re easily satisfied by consistent encounters.

A few might also enjoy spicing things up and the kinkier side of sex. And the emotional affirmation that comes through sex is a strong motivation for many as well.

There’s nothing wrong with any of these expressions per se. But often we’re left merely scratching an itch and chasing the next buzz.

What if our sexuality was intended to invite us into something much more? 

What if it had the power to reveal the deep parts of our soul, connect us intimately with each other, and even open us to more of God’s presence?

Suppose we were also able to harness the magnitude of its creative powers. Yes, in making babies and bringing more souls into the world. And also in using our bodies to perform and pour out acts of unconditional love – truly making love in countless different ways.

And imagine basking in deep pleasures that healed the soul, expanded the imagination, and filled our hearts with overflowing gratitude.

Our sexuality holds this potential. But we must cast a compelling vision in order to move in this direction.

All too often we settle for the cheap and easy thrills of sex. Or we get stuck chasing after a particular expression that we miss the forest for the trees.

Don’t miss God’s best. Develop a sexual vision that keeps you moving toward your potential.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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