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We love the idea of being a natural – effortlessly accomplishing whatever it is we want to see done. But the key to accessing even our natural potential is to start by doing it badly.

We’re born to walk, but we’re not born walking.

Even though it’s natural, it’s something we must still learn to do. And we start by doing it very badly. But soon walking becomes second nature and we do it without much thought or effort

And this is true with many of the endeavors throughout our life and relationships.

Whether we’re building a championship marriage, a great sex life, or fulfilling the work God has called us to do – we must be willing to start by doing it badly.

We often grow frustrated when things don’t come as smoothly as we would like. And we tend to then give up.

It’s easy to assume it must not be meant to be when we don’t start with the natural perfection we desire. But we sell ourselves short when we’re not willing to grow through the awkwardness of bad starts.

Like walking, our work and financial management, our relationships and spiritual development all start with wobbly first steps.

But we grow by keep showing up – leaning into the discomfort, embracing the clumsiness, and eventually finding our sweet spot that allows us to shine and fully enjoy what we were created to do.

We must regularly check our pride and not let the embarrassment of doing it badly keep us from getting started.

And, in the end, we might surprise ourselves at what becomes natural once we humbly commit to just starting.

Accept and grow through the many awkward beginnings of your life and relationships. Be willing to start badly in order to grow into your better.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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