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We each have tasks God has called us to personally. But often we get distracted meeting the demands and expectations of others. We must regularly consider what is ours to do and stay in our lane.

It’s often hard to say no to others. We know life is not about us and we don’t want to be selfish, so we tend to go along with the many spoken and unspoken requests of others.

Of course, this is not everyone’s struggle. Some of us are quick in refusing to help and need to grow in lending our strength.

But for many of us, it’s easy to lose ourselves in the burdens of others.

When people poke their head into our business, we might tell them to stay in their lane – essentially to mind their business and not ours.

But often this is advice we need ourselves.

We need to stay in our lane and not take on the responsibilities of others.

For instance, when friends and family face yet another life problem, it’s tempting to come in and fix the situation for them. And our solution might actually save them a lot of time and stress.

But is this problem ours or theirs? What is our lane?

While we might serve as a trusted advisor, we step outside of our lane when we take on their problem as our own.

And this can play out in many different ways and on many different levels.

Is the project we spend the majority of our time on what God has called us to, or to serve someone else’s agenda?

Time and again we must come back to our lane and focus on what is ours to do.

Help others as much as you can. But stay in your lane.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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