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It’s easier to play a part than to embody a character. And many of us are tempted to simply adopt the trappings of masculinity without developing its true substance – looking good on the outside but remaining empty on the inside. But the true measure of a man is based on the core strength he offers and not merely how flashy or charismatic he might be otherwise.

To be sure, growing up a lot of learning takes place through simply imitating the people we admire and their desired characteristics. And it’s clear we’re just dressing up in our dad’s clothes or as our favorite superhero. No one expects any weight or responsibility behind the various roles we play, at least at first.

But part of maturity is eventually learning how to integrate and embody the strength we see displayed in others. It becomes our own and no longer merely a costume we wear. And others can now rely on us to make a true impact for good in their lives.

We become just a caricature of masculinity when we don’t develop a sufficient inner strength. And we can easily fool others, and even ourselves, when we play our part well. But our hearts are exposed when it becomes clear we’re more concerned about appearing good rather than doing good.

A man with true strength is not concerned about his ego or how he appears to others. He doesn’t spend his time demanding respect or admiration. Nor does he feel compelled to take credit for everything done.

A man with true strength simply gets the job done without inviting any extra fanfare. His only concern is bringing more life and goodness to the people God has entrusted to him. He’s not desperate for recognition because the goodness he produces is its own reward.

We leave our families and communities barren and desperate when we’re just concerned about playing a part and not offering the true strength of our masculinity.

In the end, the measure of a man is not merely in his charisma and ability to play a part, but rather in his inner strength and ability to consistently be a blessing in the lives of others.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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