It takes practice to get good at anything. Even as little kids we had to practice walking before it became second nature. But all too often we beat ourselves up when we know we’re not yet the man we want to be. Yet we’re not imposters or faking it when we simply have to practice. 

Doctors, lawyers, counselors, and the like rightly call their professional work a “practice.” While they are the experts in their field, there’s still a sense in which they’re always learning and becoming better at their craft. And no one assumes they’re imposters just because they’re still practicing. 

And the same is true for us as well. We have to practice at our work, relationships, and life in general. 

But it often feels like we’re missing the mark and just pretending like we have it all figured out. Everyone else seems competent in how they show up while we fear being exposed as a fake.

But practicing and becoming better at what we do and how we show up is not faking it. 

On the one hand, we’re confident enough to know God has given us what we need to be effective today. At the same time, we remain humble enough to remember we’re still on the way. We’re not so prideful to assume we’ve already arrived at our best, but we don’t let false humility hold us back from offering the strength we do have today. 

We keep practicing and refining our vision and deep work, our ability to love freely and fully, and in all the ways God has called us to become salt and light in the world. 

It’s okay if you don’t have everything figured out today. This doesn’t make you an imposter. Learn to embrace the strength you do have as you keep practicing and becoming better. 

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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