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There’s a way things work. And reality doesn’t wait on our permission to continue as such. In the end, we only hurt ourselves when we deny or go against the grain of the universe.

Gravity, for example, existed long before we discovered it and explained it with scientific theories.

But even young children are quick to learn the reality of this force and adjust accordingly. It doesn’t take long to learn how to balance to keep from falling and to develop a healthy appreciation for heights.

But our discoveries don’t change reality. We’ve simply discovered what already existed. And this reality was not and is not waiting on our consensus to continue.

Gravity will still be gravity on our good days and our bad ones – whether we appreciate it or feel it’s unfair. It operates independently of our particular moods or even public opinion.

And basic common sense compels us to accept this reality on its terms and not our own.

And this remains true throughout life.

If we put our hands in fire we’re going to get burned. If we spend more than we make we will eventually go broke. And we will soon starve if we don’t work at all. 

We do well to maintain a healthy respect for the way things work – from the basic truths of nature and our embodied selves as male and female, to financial management and the realities of spiritual warfare.

In whichever realm, it’s true splinters come when we go against the grain of the universe, with some deeper and more costly than others.

Befriending reality allows us to live with much freedom and joy even as we accept the limitations present.

Minimize the splinters of life and learn to live with the grain of the universe.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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