Words matter. They build up and tear down – shaping our life and relationships for good or ill. And as husbands, we cannot take our words for granted. Our words are meant to evoke the beauty of our wives.

While we have all been hurt by harsh words, we tend to forget how powerful our words are in the lives of others, particularly our wives.

We tend to view our words very rationally or scientifically – simply naming reality with mere statements of facts.

This can leave us confused when our wives react the way they do. Why are you getting so upset? I’m just saying…

The problem is that our words are not neutral – they have an impact whether we are aware of it or not.

And if we are not careful our words can wound our wives, leave them burden with many lies, and cause the radiance of their hearts to fade.

Insensitive remarks (and even our silence) can stir many doubts, insecurities, and defense mechanisms in our wives.

As such, it becomes much more difficult for them to reject the many lies of culture and our Enemy concerning their deep value and worth.

And burdened with such lies, the fullness of their God-given radiance remains unseen.

Just as Christ’s words bring out the best in us, so our words are to bring out the best in our wives.

Are we doing our part to evoke her beauty – to wash away the many lies with the power of our words?

If she is failing to thrive, is it possible we are not washing our life-giving words over her enough?

What is the affect of your words on the heart of your wife?

Let them bring out God’s best for her – allowing her to shine in the fullness of her radiant beauty.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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