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We’re all haunted with various doubts and insecurities – wondering if we’re enough to receive the love and belonging we deeply desire. And often these fears prompt us to do more. But we can never do enough and must learn to rest in the truth of who we are.

At work, we might sign up for all the overtime and special projects to prove our worth on the team.

At home, we might buy gifts and take our family on many trips and adventures to win their affection.

And even in the bedroom, we might seek all the latest tips and techniques to please our wives and reassure our own egos.

But a lingering doubt remains despite all our efforts to do more.

The question of worth goes deeper than any of our many accomplishments.

And it’s not that anything we’re doing is inherently bad, wrong, or harmful. It’s just that doing more doesn’t get at the deepest questions of our heart.

Am I enough questions our deep and unique essence.

Anyone can work overtime and buy gifts. And there are likely many others who also have better sexual skills than we do.

Trying to do more to meet some standard of external perfection misses the point and only brings frustration and guilt for not measuring up.

The goal is becoming more rather than doing more.

As we grow in the fullness of who we are, we offer our very selves to each other and discover that this is enough.

Our deep and true essence is priceless compared to what we do.

This is not an excuse for laziness. There’s often still much room to grow in what we do.

But we don’t reduce our worth to simply trying to do enough.

Remembering who we are and our inherent worth frees us to receive the love and belonging we desire.

Do what you can. And remember, you’re enough.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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