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It’s exciting to discover shared experiences with others – to know we are not alone. These connections allow something deep within our souls to be healed.

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This is certainly true in those core desires common to all – the desires for significance and intimacy, for example.

And even more so as these desires become personally connected to our daily lives.

For instance, it is encouraging to know that other men also wrestle with feelings of doubt and insecurity.

Do I have what it takes?

I know my inner battles but often assume other men have figured out some secret knowledge foreign to me. Life seems to come easy for them.

Knowing we face similar questions allows me to reflect deeper on the question and, together, pursue healing for our masculine souls.

Our stories bring light to each other, revealing hidden themes as we discover the men God created us to be.

This plays out in our sexuality as well.

Are my sexual thoughts and desires normal?

It’s a bit frightening to think we are alone in our sexual thoughts and feelings. And even more so when our desires seem so out of step with our wives and the tame PG version of sexuality usually permitted in church.

It is freeing to realize other men also have wild and passionate desires – desires that would likely mortify our mothers and embarrass the typical politeness of our small group.

This shared experienced with other men allows us to discover the wild goodness of our sexuality.

Sexual desire is a mystery beyond our understanding, but together we can learn how to honor it and harness it for good.

What! You too? – are powerful words of connection and healing.

We need more of this in our lives.

Dare to bare your naked souls to each other and discover this healing bond.

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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