Musings on Sexual Attraction, Behaviors, and Desires

Maybe due to our general discomfort and anxiety in discussing sexual matters openly, we often miss the complexity of our sexual experiences and tend to simplistically collapse them onto each other. For example, it seems, for many that any experience of sexual feelings calls for at least an attempt to express it with concrete behaviors. Because […]

Getting His Attention

Why can’t my husband pay more attention to me? After we got married it seemed I was no longer a priority. What can I do to help him turn more toward me? Editor’s Note: This article originally appeared on BetterThanTheHoneymoon.com. This is a common complaint from many wives. They long for their husband’s attention, presence, and […]

Igniting the Spark of Sexual Passion

They are best friends, great parents, and it is clear they love each other deeply. Still, they are confused at their lack of sexual energy. The infrequent sexual encounters tend to be routine and mechanical, and they find themselves more as good roommates than passionate lovers. They long to reignite the spark of sexual energy […]

Porn and the Hairy Wild Man

Does porn (or prostitution, affairs, and other forms of illicit sex) serve as a poor attempt to access the wild, hairy side of our sexual selves, a quest for heighten levels of eroticism that are deemed inappropriate for the niceness and tameness of marital sexuality and societal expectations? It is the mask of pseudo-intimacy and quasi-eroticism that removes the possibility of being seen. In combating porn, is it possible then that […]