Skip to main content

It’s hard not to like a cute puppy dog. They’re adorable and playful and easily put a smile on our face. But cute is not the same as sexy – and we’re often disappointed when we confuse the two.

Photo by Chris Becker on Unsplash

Cuteness has a certain attraction. It stirs many warm and fuzzy feelings and leaves us feeling safe and comfortable.

And like the puppy dog, many of us learned to play the game of cuteness early in dating.

It seemed to work, and even years into the marriage we still felt like best friends.

It then comes as quite a shock when our wife seems satisfied with us being just friends and no longer lovers.

While our cuteness was initially attractive, in time our wife realizes she wants to be married to a man and not a puppy dog.

Cuteness can only go so far in filling the deep parts of her soul.

The puppy dog lives to please his wife – his day is made by whether or not she believes he’s been a good boy. He always wants to be with her and is in constant need of her reassurance and touch.

This is decidedly not sexy.

In contrast, a man learns how to love his wife and not just make her happy. He lives for a larger purpose than the marriage and is comfortable having his own opinions. He is not threatened by her independence, but still confidently moves toward her and speaks words of life over her.

This fuels sexual energy for a lifetime.

Cuteness is fine for puppies, but it does not maintain the sexual spark in marriage.

On the other hand, a man of steel and velvet gives his wife something to swoon about for years to come.

Don’t be the puppy dog. Be the man.

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

One Comment

Leave a Reply