Some people drain us, while others bring life. The same is true with marriage. Some couples bring a life-giving energy, while the disconnection and bickering of others is exhausting.
We tend not to think much about the affect our marriage has on others.
In many respects, we view our marriages very selfishly, as if it is just about the two of us. And so, whatever the atmosphere is in our relationship, whether good or bad, we assume it affects no one but us.
However, our marriages have a purpose beyond just the two of us.
God designed marriage to be a picture of unity and enduring love for the watching world.
And more than our individual happiness, marriages are intended to provide a source of life and foundation of love for the whole of our communities.
As such, our marriages need a public existence – beyond a piece of paper and from behind the privacy of closed doors. We need to interact with others as a couple.
Our presence as a couple blesses others in ways our individual presence simply cannot do. This is part of the powerful and mysterious truth of two becoming one.
At the same time, our mere presence is not enough. An estranged or quarrelling couple does not bring life – and, in fact, they can actually steal hope and joy from others.
However imperfect the journey, we should be growing in our ability to reflect the goodness and beauty of God through our marriage.
Our relational presence should be a source of peace, joy, and hope in the lives of others.
How might your marriage bless those around you?
Your marriage is not just about the two of you. Your marriage is also for others.