Occasionally, people will accuse us of things that are not true. Perhaps it’s their pain speaking or they simply want to blame us for issues in their own life. Whatever the case, we must reject any untrue allegations.

To be fair, we all have our blind spots. And sometimes others are just calling our attention to important issues we’ve missed.

As such, we shouldn’t be too quick in dismissing criticism. It’s best to first pause and consider if there’s any validity to their claims.  And, if so, we seek to correct it in keeping with our integrity.

But we don’t have to accept false guilt when the accusations are not true.

Of course, we’re not perfect and still have plenty of room to grow. But growth doesn’t take place by simply agreeing to what’s false.

Not only do we compromise our integrity when doing so, but we also rob the other of befriending realityGood does not flow from a foundation of untruth however well meaning.

Refusing to accept false accusations doesn’t mean we have to become defensive. There’s no need to defend when someone is unable or unwilling to see the truth of who we are.

The beauty of truth is that it’s not depended on our ability to convince others of it. It remains true all the same.

To be sure, there comes a point when enough is enough and we take a stand to correct falsehoods.

But this is first a heart issue – choosing to accept only God’s truth and rejecting the false claims of others.

With all the compassion and understanding we can muster, we continue our practice of love while still living boldly in the light of truth.

Love doesn’t require us to accept false accusations.

Be kind and stand courageously in the truth.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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