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It’s true every fight is not ours to fight. But we still need wisdom to know when to fight the battles that are ours to fight. And all too often we get so focused on winning a particular battle that we lose sight of the larger war.

Parents learn this lesson early – quickly realizing some battles are just not worth it with our kids. The issues don’t become less important. But they’re viewed from the perspective of the longer game.

For instance, protecting our kids from harm is more important than lessons on matching clothes. And if our kids are in danger, it matters little if their clothes are matching on that particular day.

This plays out in marriage as well.

How we divide up the responsibilities of the home or manage our finances are certainly important conversations. But these are less important than maintaining the foundation of unity within our marriage itself.

When we get so focused on the smaller matters of our relationship, we’re likely to neglect the weightier ones.

Picking our battles is strategically choosing where to focus our time and attention today – to address all the things important to us, without losing sight of the bigger vision we’re moving toward.

Of course, this applies to work, social issues, and advancing God’s kingdom as well.

We don’t put our heads in the sand or turn a blind eye to important issues that need our attention.

But we regularly step back and remember to play the long game.

It’s often our pride that keeps us focused on winning a particular battle that we’re not willing to sacrifice this “win” for the needs of the larger war.

Courageously fight for everything important to you. And wisely pick your battles.

Don’t get lost fighting for the smaller issues of your life that you lose sight of the bigger ones and miss the larger story God is telling.

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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