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Grief and heartache are a regular part of life. And often sex is the last thing on our minds during these times. But there’s also a special comfort that comes through sex that touches the deep parts of our soul.

Isaac was apparently still deeply grieving three years after his mother’s death. But he found special comfort after her death once he brought Rebekah into his mother’s tent and she became his wife.

Certainly, this is not just about the sex act itself. But it does speak to how deep love and affection can bring comfort and healing to our souls. And sex does hold the power to do this.

To be sure, sex is much more than just rubbing our bodies together. It’s a spiritual mystery that touches the depths of our being.

And the more we open to this spiritual reality the more we’re able to receive its many different tones, including its means of comfort during times of grief.

Often words are inadequate and no one grieves in the exact same way. But we still want to connect and be known – for someone to see our pain and weep with us.

Sex is a moment of vulnerability in body and soul and allows our hearts to be wide open with each other. Few other experiences touch in such a powerful way the entirety of our being. 

As such, we can pour out our soul deep within us and receive comfort and love in places not easily accessed otherwise.

Of course, this doesn’t mean we must express ourselves sexually during times of grief. This is clearly not for everyone or for every occasion of grief. But it does remind us not to neglect the mystery and power of our sexual union.

One of its many benefits is to speak comfort and healing into the depths of our very souls.

Learn to embrace this as God’s gift even during times of heartache and grief.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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