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We find many things intriguing. They capture our attention and we take great pleasure in contemplating and exploring their mysteries. And given our sexual curiosity and wonder, it’s no real surprise we’re regularly fascinated by sex as well.

A little kid might be fascinated with how things work and spend all day tinkering – taking things apart and putting them back together again.

And this interest could continue into adulthood.

But as a deep fascination it also becomes a desire that’s never completely satisfied. There’s always more he wants to tinker with.

And it seems sexual fascination follows a similar suit.

We tend to hold a deep interest in sexuality that’s not satisfied by merely learning the mechanics or simply in having sex.

There’s a mystery that keeps us captivated – much deeper than any one person, act, or image. And this likely speaks to the transcendent qualities of sex.

But often this fascination is shrouded in shame. It seems inappropriate to explore and contemplate the mysteries of sex for the sheer enjoyment of it.

We might tolerate it for the sake of basic education or as a means to spice up our lovemaking. But it’s rare to unapologetically enjoy our fascination for it’s own sake.

And unfortunately when we don’t make room for our interests in the light they’re more likely to go underground and become corrupt.

Said another way, we’re more vulnerable to the dark side of the sexual force when we don’t learn how to honor and enjoy our fascination aboveboard.

Prayer and practice is a good place to start – gratitude for the beauty of sexuality and consciously bringing God into the focus of our intrigue.

Together with God we get to ponder and muse, feast on and delight in the wonder of our sexuality – a small glimpse of his infinite glory.

Freely contemplate, explore, and enjoy your fascination with sex as a mature and true son of God.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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