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Sometimes we must pay the cost for the problems of others. It’s not fair and yet it’s life. Maturity often means we must respond to many situations that are not our fault.

We know we’re responsible for our problems and seek to make amends for any wrongs we’ve caused. And it seems only reasonable to expect others to do the same.

But, in big and small ways, we also learn early that life is not always fair.

And perhaps rarely is this intentional or malicious, but it remains unfair all the same.

For instance, our neighbor’s trash might end up in our yard, someone might rear-end us at a stoplight, or we might’ve gotten a raw deal as we watched our parents or boss play favorites with others.

It’s not fair. But the burden still falls to us to pick up the trash, deal with the ordeal of getting our vehicle fixed, or discovering our true essence and value even when others miss it.

To be sure, it does the heart good for others to witness the injustices we face. This affirms our story however small the incident.

But merely complaining doesn’t change the situation. And we must still respond when someone else’s issues cross to our side of the street.

This doesn’t mean we become a doormat. And many times we rightly bring issues back to the rightful owner – such as seeking some type of compensation for damages done.

But often we must simply eat the cost in order to restore our life back to how we want it.

We pick up the trash even when it’s not fair because having a clean yard is worth it. 

Demanding perfect fairness often leaves much undone as we wait on others to do their part.

Do your part to restore goodness and beauty throughout life even when it’s not fair.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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