We’re all needy however much we hate to admit it. While it’s true there are some roads we must travel alone, we ultimately still need each other to live well and fully alive. It’s with great courage and humility we must regularly confess our need for each other.

Certainly there are many who maintain an immature neediness – an inability to take responsibility for their own life while constantly looking to others to do for them.

Mature neediness is not neglecting the duties and responsibilities God has given us. However, it does recognize we are created as relational beings and need each other to achieve our highest good.

In fact, an immaturity is still in play when we deny this basic design and pretend we can do life on our own.

To be sure, there’s power just to have someone witness our story. It affirms our existence matters and is seen.

But more than just being seen, we need the embodied presence of another with us. Modern technology is great, but nothing replaces actual face time. There’s an energy in being present with each other that feeds the soul.

And even more than presence, we need each other’s touch. Touch is comforting, nourishing, and healing. Babies are not the only ones who fail to thrive without regular moments of physical touch.

In the end, we all have relational needs, which include others witnessing our story, offering us their presence, and touching us. And these are not things we can accomplish on our own.

Without others a loneliness and despair sets in and we experience a true failure to thrive.

Admitting our need is a first step toward becoming all that God has for us.

Accept your neediness for relationships and discover life to the full.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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