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It’s nice to think everyone will like us. But this is rarely the case. Eventually, we meet someone who doesn’t like us despite our best efforts otherwise. This is okay and allows for our authentic self to show up.

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We put our heart and soul into our work and relationships – offering our best to others. We do this because it matters and not to win the approval of others.

And more often than not, others see and respect our efforts. They are “for us” even if they are not our biggest fans.

However, there are times when others will simply not like us or what we do.

It’s tempting in these moments to redouble our efforts to win the other over.

Sometimes this works and we gain a friend. But sometimes all our determination does little to change their heart toward us.

The reality is some people just don’t like us. And this is okay. It doesn’t mean that something is wrong.

Some people like sushi, for example, and some people don’t. Nothing is wrong with sushi per se. It’s just not for everyone.

And while it feels more personal, the same is true for us. For any number of reasons, our best will never be enough for everyone. Our limited humanity cannot please everyone’s desires.

All the same, when someone dislikes us it gives us an opportunity to pause and reflect.

Are we being the man we want to be? Are we offering our best?

If so, we can carry on with gratitude – thankful for the affirmation of showing up with our true self. If not, we now know our growth areas. This is a win either way.

It’s impossible to please everyone. And we only frustrate ourselves when we try.

Accept everyone will not like you.

Grow as needed, but don’t let a need for approval distract you from offering your authentic and true self.

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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