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Hindsight is 20/20. We look back and wish many things were different. While we cannot change the past, we can learn how to live in such a way to minimize a life of regrets going forward.

When we are caught up in the moment it’s easy to make decisions we later regret.

Maybe we say something we wish we can take back or do something that compromises our integrity.

We feel regret because the situation could have been avoided.

If only we had taken our time, given it a second thought, and remembered the man we wanted to be, things could have turned out much differently.

To live without regrets we must remember who we are, keep a cool head, make grounded decisions, and be willing to endure hardships for a greater good.

  1. Who is the man we want to be? What are our guiding principles? This gives us clarity and makes us less vulnerable to acting prematurely in the situation.
  2. Keeping a cool head is not denying the intense emotions of the moment. However, it is not letting them get the best of us. Like an athlete or warrior, we keep our wits about us even under pressure.
  3. When it’s time to act, a cool head allows us to make decisions aligned with our core principles. We make the best decision we can in the moment – a right action grounded in our deep values and beliefs.
  4. Finally, we must hold on until the good we hope for arrives. A once and done decision is usually not enough. We have to keep showing up and enduring the hardships of growth. Otherwise, we might regret not staying the course to the end.

Maybe we can’t eliminate all regret. But it can be minimized.

We do this by slowing down enough to live with our integrity.

Don’t let the moment get the best of you. Stay grounded and live without regrets.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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